It’s Okay to Mourn

Specifically, today’s topic deals with mourning dreams that have died. At least, that’s what the devotion topic is about. I want to expand it though. I want to say it’s okay to mourn the bad things that have happened in your life.

For those of us who are believers, I think this message has gotten lost in the translation. When we become Christians, we think we should be filled with the joy of Jesus and that nothing should ever be wrong again because we are filled with that joy. Don’t get me wrong. The fruits of the Spirit are a thing, :-), and our lives should be filled with them. Galatians 5:22-23 says this, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” These are all things God has given us.

At the same time, God realizes we still live in a broken world with its hurts and disappointments. He knows we will mourn, and that’s okay. In Biblical times, they called it lamenting. Here are some examples. Psalm 5:1 says, “Listen to my words, Lord, consider my lament.” Here is another one from Jeremiah 4:8. “So put on sackcloth, lament and wail, for the fierce anger of the Lord has not turned from us.” Jeremiah 7:29 and 9:20 are also good examples. “Cut off your hair and throw it away; take up a lament on the barren heights, for the Lord has rejected and abandoned this generation that is under his wrath.” “Now, you women, hear the word of the Lord; open your ears to the words of his mouth. Teach your daughters how to wail; teach one another a lament.” Finally, the entire book of Job is a lament of everything that had happened to him.

So, with all of these examples in Scripture, one might think that the present-day church would have its act together regarding mourning. I’m sad to say it doesn’t, at least not in the western church. There is a prescribed time of mourning for someone who has died, and if there are personal problems to be mourned, well, that’s not really accepted inside the church. We are expected to be buttoned up, zipped up, and to only show the good parts of being a Christian. If we’re hurting or we’ve done something bad, we don’t think we should show it, and if we do, we feel ashamed. At least, I do. Your mileage may differ.

We even feel shame when we’re invited to share our burdens and our hurts. One of the speakers at my church on Sunday invited people to stand if they had been affected by a laundry list of hurts and burdens. The object was to show that we are all affected by hurts and burdens and that we need to support each other. Many people stood, but it was an uncomfortable standing, a standing that felt obligated instead of wanted.

There are a number of things that are good about living in the west, but the overemphasis on individuality to the exclusion of community is not one of them. We think we have to handle everything by ourselves, but that is the furthest thing from the truth and even further from God’s truth. God meant for us to have community. He meant for us to laugh together and to mourn together. He meant for us to encourage one another as we lean into God’s love and grace and for us to be the church to our hurting world. Because, the church is not just a building. It is a group of us who are living out God’s perfect grace to an imperfect world. May we all lean into that truth today as we love together, laugh together, and mourn together!

Praying God’s blessings on you all today!

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